Wisdom Dump
I last wrote three days ago because it wasn't too much to tell. Now that it's been some time, I have plenty to say.
We went to visit one of my grandparent's good friends' house; she is a doctor for the US Embassy. She is a lovely lady full of life and has three wonderful daughters with whom I enjoyed my time. All the women in the house, me, my grandmother, her eldest daughter, and her were having girl talk. My grandmother said she read about a man who met some of the wealthiest men in the world, and he asked them what the secret to success was. They all answered unison and said, "It's about who you marry." This altered my belief that men don't give enough credit to their wives for their success, but poor men don't. Choosing your life partner is such a huge decision. Your energy is immeshed with this person for years, which can either be medicine for your life or poison.
I asked the older women at the table, " Do you think we should wait for a man to be successful if we see his potential?" They both said no, but my grandmother immediately said make all your big decisions with God. We can't tell you what you should do for your life, but God knows everything. If you are at a crossroads, ask God; if you are wondering if this man is your husband, ask God and be prepared for the answer, whether you want to hear it or not. She said, " Happy is the man who finds his wife." You never seek out your faithful mate; he finds you. He sees you as his wife already because a wife is a woman who has been pouring love consistently into herself. She is not seeking a man or a partnership but finding new depths of love within herself. I loved that conversation because I needed to hear that.
Often, a partnership is measured by trivial things; for example, the doctor lady, I don't want to share her name, but she said she got married when they were both still in medical school. They didn't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of, but they stuck together and built a beautiful life together. I'm not saying that struggle is a precursor for true love. I don't even want that for myself. However, strong foundations take time to build. You learn many lessons and can handle much more when sacrificing for something. But to go from nothing to having her whole life funded by the government, two houses, seven cars, and living overseas for years was inspiring.
Your life is immensely blessed when you are obedient and listen to God. There are universal laws we should abide by to keep confused and deceitful energy out of our lives. I am learning that now. One of the biggest lessons I am learning is there are no shortcuts. It has come up so much for me in the past three months; it's wild. Like today, my uncle told us a story about when he went to visit my late Uncle Butch. They had to move some furniture, and my uncle was trying to do it a lazier way, then my Uncle Butch said, " Lazy n*ggas always end up working twice as hard." My uncle said that stuck with him throughout his life because it still rings true. Do your absolute best with everything the first time so you don't have to return and do it again.
Our elders speak in parables rather than outright saying things, and I love that about being from the South. There is so much wisdom in the tongues of our elders who take the time to share with us, even if some are crazy. Listen and take what you can get. Another one is, " God draws with crooked lines." God can still achieve "his" perfect plan through imperfect people.
My grandma told us a story about a man who died and said he went through judgment in the afterlife. His angels took him and told him it's not about how you do something. It's about why you do it. You could save people your whole life and be a fantastic preacher, life coach, and entrepreneur. But if you did it for the love of money, you didn't do it sincerely. I don't believe in judgment like most people do; we are judged every day of our lives. It is up to us to be self-aware enough to know why we do what we do. You will have what you need to live an extraordinary life as long as you do what your heart calls you to do. Doing things just for money isn't fulfilling, and you should want your life to be full of rich experiences; otherwise, you'll always seek something to fill the void.
My grandad talked to me tonight, and I am pretty awkward with him because we don't have the best relationship. Just last night, I overheard him comparing me to someone more successful than me, and it hurt my feelings; it made me cry. I thought I didn't seek validation from him anymore, but I do. I try hard not to, but I want them to be proud of me. I know it's not a good way to be because I can't live my life for anyone but myself; however, it was just my unchecked emotions. I am working on it, and after I let out the cry and talked to my other family about it, I felt better. I am exactly where I need to be, doing exactly what I need to be doing.
But anyway, back to what I was saying, I asked him what he thinks is the most important thing I should be doing right now at 23 years old. He said I should assess what I don't know and figure out how to fill those gaps. If I need to learn how to fill them, talk to someone I trust in a great position and have them help me assess where I am, then be open to hearing what I may not want to. He told me a lot of other stuff, too, but it all boiled down to expanding my horizons and immersing myself in expansive opportunities and experiences. My intuition told me these things at the beginning of this year.
I am excited about what's to come in my life. I got too ahead of myself and felt I should live to serve the people, but in my 20s, I should serve myself first. I am cultivating my mind and life to fit where I am going and what I am destined to do. I am ready to be a student of life in a new and more exciting way now. I deserve to have fun, learn, and live a youthful life dedicated to my growth. So do you, whoever is reading this. You have to serve yourself first. Until next time.xoxo
- Beam
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